Dear Mean Little Cow,
I am writing you a letter because you have really annoyed me this week. Not my mean little cow (yes, that inner critic, judge, saboteur, negative voice, mind monkey, whatever you want to call it.) but someone else's. Someone I care about. Someone who I can not stand by and watch you pull apart with your lies and teeny bits of evidence that prove what? She makes the odd mistake, is human, is not PERFECT! So what? So what if she isn't?
It does not give you the right to come in and drown out all that is great and wonderful about her. It does not give you the right to come in and stamp on all of her plans and dreams with your big hooves of doom! It does not give you the right to make her feel useless and incapable, when it is a flippin' lie. Oh yes! I'm using the f word!
I'll tell you why it doesn't give you the right because I know the truth. I've experienced it. I've witnessed it and I am calling you out on your 'so called' evidence.
Let me tell you MLC!
This woman is a huge heart. A huge, walking heart. She cares for and looks after so many people around her, often to the detriment of herself (although we are working on that!). She is creative and talented. She is a great mum with a huge capacity to love. She is resilient. Despite all she has been through, and continues to have chucked at her, she is strong and passionate and a force to be reckoned with. She is a great business brain and can create systems and processes that support other people's growth and development. She is skilled and competent. She is funny and lighthearted. She is serious and determined. She is a million things YOU MLC are not letting her take credit for.
So I am writing this to you to tell you to back off. To sit tight and to see the evidence I have presented for once. I know you are there to protect her/us from danger but you have nothing to fear, and so you need to go out to pasture until a real and present danger appears. Then we are happy for you to do your job, but until then stop the negative mooing. Allow this gorgeous woman, who is beautiful inside and out, to shine as brightly as she wants to. Let her see and hear how amazing she is. Let her take the odd chance, risk failure or success and know it is flippin' well ok.
I'm thanking you in advance for your cooperation MLC.
Now back off please!
If you are listening to that MLC too much, take these two simple steps to get her to pipe down.
1. Listen to what she is saying, but not too long!
2. Hear the truth in it. Hear the lie. What evidence can you find to the contrary? Write it down. Prove that MLC wrong.
Want to work with me to get her under control. Text MLC to 07946511435 and I'll ring you with 24 hours to organise a clarity call.
What does MLC say to you and how can you prove her wrong? I'd love to hear in the comments below.