Burnout has many symptoms and is a sign that you have physically, mentally and emotionally depleted your internal resources. I was recently interviewed on Women In Business Radio by the fantastic Sian Murray (Full interview here.) So, I thought I'd discuss some of the main parts here.
Some key symptoms include:
If you do recognise these symptoms first seek professional medical help as you may need additional support including medical treatment or counselling. )
Also know that this is a normal, human reaction to your body experiencing stress over a prolonged time without you listening to the many action signals you’ve been sending to yourself, but ignoring them or masking them. Burnout is simply the body saying enough is enough.
When we are stressed adrenaline and cortisol flood the body to support us in order to respond to the perceived danger the brain is signalling to us. Except these days it’s impending client deadlines, school bag administration, parental carer responsibilities and the million and one things you feel you should be doing, not a sabre toothed tiger attacking you. Burnout is a physical response to long term stress and it’s an opportunity to ask yourself, ‘What am I doing and why?’
Now, the problem with burnout is once we address it and start to work out of it, it leaves a mental and emotional marker in our brain that means that it can, if we let it, affect our performance and our energy long term. You see as soon as you feel that overwhelm feeling your amygdala will send the message that you are in danger of going into burnout again and consequently it will affect your confidence and your ability to make decisions in your next level energy.
Don’t be alarmed though it can also be helpful as it will lower your tolerance for getting involved in other people’s nonsense, pleasing everyone else and not yourself, so there is always a silver lining.
Here are a few key lessons from someone who’s burnt out and bounced back. READ ON......
I ask because over the last few years I have noticed that there can be little awareness around how we are managing our days, and in extreme cases, our lives. Life sort of runs away with itself and we are conditioned to believe it has to be hard work and a struggle to get the things that we want, i.e. the material things that we want and in pursuing that we lose sight of the other priorities we have that might make us feel successful. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying the material things don't have a value, I love a new coat, makes me feel great and having a beautiful home enhances my life, but in order to achieve all this we can lose sight of some of the simpler things that bring us happiness.
People drift from task to task, and whilst on the surface they are prioritising, in reality they are fire fighting or responding to whoever shouts at them loudest (be that a client, a boss, a child or a partner) and their energy is chaotic and fueled on high carb, sugar filled food or caffeine and at the end of an exhausting day they crash. They are snappy and irritable with the people they love, some drown that out with wine or more food, until the whole cycle starts again the next day.
What I love about the clients I work with is that they are ready for change. They know that this isn’t the way they want to live life and they are ready to do something about it. So, where to start. Read On........
I see you sat with a To Do List as long as your arm, and your leg. Not enough hours in the day to tackle all that needs to happen and all the while you are sinking deeper and deeper into listening to that Mean Little Cow voice (the inner critic) who is telling you that you are disorganised, dizzy and indecisive.
WRONG!! You’ve simply got too much volume and you need to turn it down.
Try this process and see how much better you feel and in control of what you are doing. Read on.....
If you are into Law of Attraction you’ll have heard all about living life at a HIGHER VIBRATION. As I understand it, in simple terms, this is a state of being open, curious, solution focused, action taking and positive. Lots of people present it as being positive all the time, which I think really puts some people off as they don’t believe it is possible to be in a positive state of mind all the time. I don’t either, but I do believe that it is possible to be in a Solution Focused state more often than not and this creates the higher vibrations, of which we hear so much about.
I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again, all emotion is relevant. All feelings are action signals. It’s how we react to them that counts.
Stay in anger and more anger, bitterness and resentment will come. Use it as an action signal and get solution focused, you might create positive change or improve communication in the long run.
Stay in guilt and shame and you will create a smaller, more fearful world for yourself. Use it as an action signal to look at how you honour you and how you can move forward and grow from ANY experience and the world will become a bigger and brighter place.
Stay in sadness and life is darker and colder. Use it as an action signal to honour a loss, or reconnect with someone you love, and life seems a better place to live and more colourful.
I asked my ON Line Communities, my subscription club The Solution Focused Sisterhood and my free group The Next Level Woman’s Club, to give me some low vibration (or what I call ‘Default Thoughts’) to demonstrate to you how we take these thoughts that enter our heads and spin them to a higher vibration and make the Solution Focused. Read on to find out how.
One of the biggest commitments I made to myself several years ago was to give myself permission to put myself first in order to become the better, more productive and able to thrive in work version of me I wanted to be.
It used to be so different before I put into practice the tools and strategies I learnt during my personal development journey and gaining my accreditation as a Coach. I was working as a Senior Leader in a third sector organisation managing several teams and contracts, whilst bringing up two young girls and volunteering for several organisations.
I would do the hour long commute having dropped my girls in child care and then rush home, continuing unfinished conversations with colleagues on the hands free all the way home. I’d collect the girls, with one of them particularly strung out with the whole after school situation and we’d have a fractious hour/two hours of tea, bath, homework, then bed. My husband would arrive at some point in this cycle and pitch in, or retreat depending on everyone's mood. After which, I’d work some more to fit in the things I’d been unable to finish in the day, or I’d be involved in some event I’d not had the courage to say no to.
Life was like living in a hamster wheel and the frustrating thing was I’d been here before and I ought to have known better. I felt lonely and trapped with a million plates spinning and ready to drop. Read on to find out how this all changed and how it can change for you too.