Burnout has many symptoms and is a sign that you have physically, mentally and emotionally depleted your internal resources. I was recently interviewed on Women In Business Radio by the fantastic Sian Murray (Full interview here.) So, I thought I'd discuss some of the main parts here.
Some key symptoms include:
If you do recognise these symptoms first seek professional medical help as you may need additional support including medical treatment or counselling. )
Also know that this is a normal, human reaction to your body experiencing stress over a prolonged time without you listening to the many action signals you’ve been sending to yourself, but ignoring them or masking them. Burnout is simply the body saying enough is enough.
When we are stressed adrenaline and cortisol flood the body to support us in order to respond to the perceived danger the brain is signalling to us. Except these days it’s impending client deadlines, school bag administration, parental carer responsibilities and the million and one things you feel you should be doing, not a sabre toothed tiger attacking you. Burnout is a physical response to long term stress and it’s an opportunity to ask yourself, ‘What am I doing and why?’
Now, the problem with burnout is once we address it and start to work out of it, it leaves a mental and emotional marker in our brain that means that it can, if we let it, affect our performance and our energy long term. You see as soon as you feel that overwhelm feeling your amygdala will send the message that you are in danger of going into burnout again and consequently it will affect your confidence and your ability to make decisions in your next level energy.
Don’t be alarmed though it can also be helpful as it will lower your tolerance for getting involved in other people’s nonsense, pleasing everyone else and not yourself, so there is always a silver lining.
Here are a few key lessons from someone who’s burnt out and bounced back. READ ON......
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What does success look like for you?
As a business owner/ entrepreneur ….. This is always a question that is asked but quite often not thought of before starting your own business or possibly lost along the way.
To be honest it’s a question that has such a positive impact on any part of your life, it’s one that benefits us in all areas.
Knowing what you want to achieve and what it will look like is what will keep you going through the ups and downs of having your own business. Often all just in one day!
A lot of people visualise, journal, have vision boards - all things that help keep the focus on where they want to be. I’m a real process person and I’ll be honest, I found this really difficult to do.
I like to know specifics and so I’m often focused on the journey and not the destination.
I’m not a go with the flow type - a product of my personal and professional lives. My jobs were all process driven, getting right into the detail and as they were Senior Management roles, the logistical details rolled into my personal life too - fitting everything together; travelling between cities to care for poorly parents, meeting friends, spending time with my husband….. It was all carefully orchestrated, ever searching for the holy grail that we’ve been sold from the moment we start that first job - “The Work/Life Balance” (that’s a whole different conversation)
For me just sitting down, never mind quietly and trying to create a vision is just impossible.
As I have developed my business I do work to balance out my process mind. I believe in the universe and there are clear moments in my life where when I look back now I can see the synchronicity. Read on to hear more about how Kristan moved her business to Majorca to live her definition of success.
I ask because over the last few years I have noticed that there can be little awareness around how we are managing our days, and in extreme cases, our lives. Life sort of runs away with itself and we are conditioned to believe it has to be hard work and a struggle to get the things that we want, i.e. the material things that we want and in pursuing that we lose sight of the other priorities we have that might make us feel successful. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying the material things don't have a value, I love a new coat, makes me feel great and having a beautiful home enhances my life, but in order to achieve all this we can lose sight of some of the simpler things that bring us happiness.
People drift from task to task, and whilst on the surface they are prioritising, in reality they are fire fighting or responding to whoever shouts at them loudest (be that a client, a boss, a child or a partner) and their energy is chaotic and fueled on high carb, sugar filled food or caffeine and at the end of an exhausting day they crash. They are snappy and irritable with the people they love, some drown that out with wine or more food, until the whole cycle starts again the next day.
What I love about the clients I work with is that they are ready for change. They know that this isn’t the way they want to live life and they are ready to do something about it. So, where to start. Read On........
As many of you know my dad died last month. Death is a part of life and we will all feel the impact of grief at some point in our life cycle, unless you haven’t loved of course, because grief is a result of losing someone you love. I imagine this is a rare state of being to have never loved, I am grateful I have lots of love in my life.
Grief can hit people in many different ways and a lot will depend on the relationship you had with the person who died, how they died and how you handle these life changing moments.
I have to be honest, I have struggled at times, not just with my dad’s death, but with the 18 months of multiple weekly hospital visits, several emergency situations where we nearly lost him, his coming home with an inadequate care package (once they got it right things improved) and managing my business, my home life and myself. However, if I hadn’t had the tools and strategies I have built up as a coach and reached out for support, personally and professionally, when I needed it, then it could have been a lot worse. Consequently, the BIG Vision for my entrepreneurial journey hasn’t unfolded in the way that I’d planned. But as I always say, ‘Planning is King. Flexibility is Queen.’ This has applied so much in the last two years and has kept me sane.... Read on for support
If you are into Law of Attraction you’ll have heard all about living life at a HIGHER VIBRATION. As I understand it, in simple terms, this is a state of being open, curious, solution focused, action taking and positive. Lots of people present it as being positive all the time, which I think really puts some people off as they don’t believe it is possible to be in a positive state of mind all the time. I don’t either, but I do believe that it is possible to be in a Solution Focused state more often than not and this creates the higher vibrations, of which we hear so much about.
I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again, all emotion is relevant. All feelings are action signals. It’s how we react to them that counts.
Stay in anger and more anger, bitterness and resentment will come. Use it as an action signal and get solution focused, you might create positive change or improve communication in the long run.
Stay in guilt and shame and you will create a smaller, more fearful world for yourself. Use it as an action signal to look at how you honour you and how you can move forward and grow from ANY experience and the world will become a bigger and brighter place.
Stay in sadness and life is darker and colder. Use it as an action signal to honour a loss, or reconnect with someone you love, and life seems a better place to live and more colourful.
I asked my ON Line Communities, my subscription club The Solution Focused Sisterhood and my free group The Next Level Woman’s Club, to give me some low vibration (or what I call ‘Default Thoughts’) to demonstrate to you how we take these thoughts that enter our heads and spin them to a higher vibration and make the Solution Focused. Read on to find out how.