I ask because over the last few years I have noticed that there can be little awareness around how we are managing our days, and in extreme cases, our lives. Life sort of runs away with itself and we are conditioned to believe it has to be hard work and a struggle to get the things that we want, i.e. the material things that we want and in pursuing that we lose sight of the other priorities we have that might make us feel successful. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying the material things don't have a value, I love a new coat, makes me feel great and having a beautiful home enhances my life, but in order to achieve all this we can lose sight of some of the simpler things that bring us happiness.
People drift from task to task, and whilst on the surface they are prioritising, in reality they are fire fighting or responding to whoever shouts at them loudest (be that a client, a boss, a child or a partner) and their energy is chaotic and fueled on high carb, sugar filled food or caffeine and at the end of an exhausting day they crash. They are snappy and irritable with the people they love, some drown that out with wine or more food, until the whole cycle starts again the next day.
What I love about the clients I work with is that they are ready for change. They know that this isn’t the way they want to live life and they are ready to do something about it. So, where to start. Read On........
As many of you know my dad died last month. Death is a part of life and we will all feel the impact of grief at some point in our life cycle, unless you haven’t loved of course, because grief is a result of losing someone you love. I imagine this is a rare state of being to have never loved, I am grateful I have lots of love in my life.
Grief can hit people in many different ways and a lot will depend on the relationship you had with the person who died, how they died and how you handle these life changing moments.
I have to be honest, I have struggled at times, not just with my dad’s death, but with the 18 months of multiple weekly hospital visits, several emergency situations where we nearly lost him, his coming home with an inadequate care package (once they got it right things improved) and managing my business, my home life and myself. However, if I hadn’t had the tools and strategies I have built up as a coach and reached out for support, personally and professionally, when I needed it, then it could have been a lot worse. Consequently, the BIG Vision for my entrepreneurial journey hasn’t unfolded in the way that I’d planned. But as I always say, ‘Planning is King. Flexibility is Queen.’ This has applied so much in the last two years and has kept me sane.... Read on for support
I see you sat with a To Do List as long as your arm, and your leg. Not enough hours in the day to tackle all that needs to happen and all the while you are sinking deeper and deeper into listening to that Mean Little Cow voice (the inner critic) who is telling you that you are disorganised, dizzy and indecisive.
WRONG!! You’ve simply got too much volume and you need to turn it down.
Try this process and see how much better you feel and in control of what you are doing. Read on.....
You know what I mean. You tell yourself that people will find out that you aren’t as good as they think you are or you aren’t an ‘expert’, so who the hell are you to talk about X, Y or Z. Well, it’s a very common phenomenon with high achieving people, and often women, and is what psychologists call ‘Intellectual self doubt.’
The reason I decided to write this article is because this week I mentioned on my Facebook page that I was launching a new VIP BETA programme for ‘high achieving women’ to support them to manage their energy to perform consistently throughout the day so that they can feel good about themselves again and avoid overwhelm; Create days that are focused, productive and filled with activity that is important to them without the guilt so that they can have the financial and emotional success they desire, and time to enjoy it! As well as to create a lifestyle where they thrive emotionally, physically and mentally, which includes their work but they aren’t a salve to it, so that they manage the ‘imposter syndrome, that inner critic voice and feel confident in their decision making and action taking as a female leader.
And oh the irony!! I had high achieving women messaging me saying they would love to be part of the programme and yet, they weren’t sure if they were high achieving women!
WT… and it hit me. The women who need this the most, are the very women who won’t recognise themselves as high achievers because they haven’t got their hyper achiever saboteur under control!
It’s common for women leaders to not recognise how amazing they are (it happens for men too and they are less likely to admit it), which is why I want to run this programme in the first place.
Valerie Young, author of The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women, stated, “Being female means you and your work automatically stand a greater chance of being ignored, discounted, trivialized, devalued or otherwise taken less seriously than a man’s.” So, it might not all be in your mind why you feel like a fraud.
However, more often than not we create these feelings ourselves and I have faced my ‘Imposter Syndrome’ several times in the last 20+ years of working.
Read on for 9 Ways to Overcome this voice in your head.
If you are into Law of Attraction you’ll have heard all about living life at a HIGHER VIBRATION. As I understand it, in simple terms, this is a state of being open, curious, solution focused, action taking and positive. Lots of people present it as being positive all the time, which I think really puts some people off as they don’t believe it is possible to be in a positive state of mind all the time. I don’t either, but I do believe that it is possible to be in a Solution Focused state more often than not and this creates the higher vibrations, of which we hear so much about.
I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again, all emotion is relevant. All feelings are action signals. It’s how we react to them that counts.
Stay in anger and more anger, bitterness and resentment will come. Use it as an action signal and get solution focused, you might create positive change or improve communication in the long run.
Stay in guilt and shame and you will create a smaller, more fearful world for yourself. Use it as an action signal to look at how you honour you and how you can move forward and grow from ANY experience and the world will become a bigger and brighter place.
Stay in sadness and life is darker and colder. Use it as an action signal to honour a loss, or reconnect with someone you love, and life seems a better place to live and more colourful.
I asked my ON Line Communities, my subscription club The Solution Focused Sisterhood and my free group The Next Level Woman’s Club, to give me some low vibration (or what I call ‘Default Thoughts’) to demonstrate to you how we take these thoughts that enter our heads and spin them to a higher vibration and make the Solution Focused. Read on to find out how.