Female leaders are often accused of being ‘over emotional’ and ‘too people focused’, as if that is a bad thing. There is in fact a place for emotion in the work place.
The world of work needs both task focused and people focused people to work together, both have emotions. I know when I was recruiting people I wanted to see passion, excitement, engagement. I wanted to know they cared and felt a strong connection with our work and the people we were serving. The same way I feel about the clients I work with now.
Emotional Intelligence is being aware of your emotions, their impact and how to manage them. Simply raising your awareness of Emotional Intelligence will directly impact on your effectiveness as a leader and this article will explore that.
According to Daniel Goleman, an American psychologist who helped to popularise EI in the mid 90s, there are 5 key elements to this:
1. Self -Awareness
2.Self - regulation
5. Social Skills
Understanding and applying these elements ensure that as leaders you have a high emotional intelligence and this can have an incredible impact on your performance and energy as a female leader. Let’s look at each element and see how it will benefit you to improve your emotional intelligence as you lead in your field of expertise. Read on to see how.
Burnout has many symptoms and is a sign that you have physically, mentally and emotionally depleted your internal resources. I was recently interviewed on Women In Business Radio by the fantastic Sian Murray (Full interview here.) So, I thought I'd discuss some of the main parts here.
Some key symptoms include:
If you do recognise these symptoms first seek professional medical help as you may need additional support including medical treatment or counselling. )
Also know that this is a normal, human reaction to your body experiencing stress over a prolonged time without you listening to the many action signals you’ve been sending to yourself, but ignoring them or masking them. Burnout is simply the body saying enough is enough.
When we are stressed adrenaline and cortisol flood the body to support us in order to respond to the perceived danger the brain is signalling to us. Except these days it’s impending client deadlines, school bag administration, parental carer responsibilities and the million and one things you feel you should be doing, not a sabre toothed tiger attacking you. Burnout is a physical response to long term stress and it’s an opportunity to ask yourself, ‘What am I doing and why?’
Now, the problem with burnout is once we address it and start to work out of it, it leaves a mental and emotional marker in our brain that means that it can, if we let it, affect our performance and our energy long term. You see as soon as you feel that overwhelm feeling your amygdala will send the message that you are in danger of going into burnout again and consequently it will affect your confidence and your ability to make decisions in your next level energy.
Don’t be alarmed though it can also be helpful as it will lower your tolerance for getting involved in other people’s nonsense, pleasing everyone else and not yourself, so there is always a silver lining.
Here are a few key lessons from someone who’s burnt out and bounced back. READ ON......
I ask because over the last few years I have noticed that there can be little awareness around how we are managing our days, and in extreme cases, our lives. Life sort of runs away with itself and we are conditioned to believe it has to be hard work and a struggle to get the things that we want, i.e. the material things that we want and in pursuing that we lose sight of the other priorities we have that might make us feel successful. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying the material things don't have a value, I love a new coat, makes me feel great and having a beautiful home enhances my life, but in order to achieve all this we can lose sight of some of the simpler things that bring us happiness.
People drift from task to task, and whilst on the surface they are prioritising, in reality they are fire fighting or responding to whoever shouts at them loudest (be that a client, a boss, a child or a partner) and their energy is chaotic and fueled on high carb, sugar filled food or caffeine and at the end of an exhausting day they crash. They are snappy and irritable with the people they love, some drown that out with wine or more food, until the whole cycle starts again the next day.
What I love about the clients I work with is that they are ready for change. They know that this isn’t the way they want to live life and they are ready to do something about it. So, where to start. Read On........
As many of you know my dad died last month. Death is a part of life and we will all feel the impact of grief at some point in our life cycle, unless you haven’t loved of course, because grief is a result of losing someone you love. I imagine this is a rare state of being to have never loved, I am grateful I have lots of love in my life.
Grief can hit people in many different ways and a lot will depend on the relationship you had with the person who died, how they died and how you handle these life changing moments.
I have to be honest, I have struggled at times, not just with my dad’s death, but with the 18 months of multiple weekly hospital visits, several emergency situations where we nearly lost him, his coming home with an inadequate care package (once they got it right things improved) and managing my business, my home life and myself. However, if I hadn’t had the tools and strategies I have built up as a coach and reached out for support, personally and professionally, when I needed it, then it could have been a lot worse. Consequently, the BIG Vision for my entrepreneurial journey hasn’t unfolded in the way that I’d planned. But as I always say, ‘Planning is King. Flexibility is Queen.’ This has applied so much in the last two years and has kept me sane.... Read on for support
I see you sat with a To Do List as long as your arm, and your leg. Not enough hours in the day to tackle all that needs to happen and all the while you are sinking deeper and deeper into listening to that Mean Little Cow voice (the inner critic) who is telling you that you are disorganised, dizzy and indecisive.
WRONG!! You’ve simply got too much volume and you need to turn it down.
Try this process and see how much better you feel and in control of what you are doing. Read on.....