It's International Coaching Week so I thought I'd take the opportunity to talk about my passion and my purpose. Coaching.
I love what I do for a living. I struggle to call it a 'job' because I truly feel it's more of a mission. A mission to find women like you. A mission to give you programmes, challenges and coaching that will really impact on your life in a way that nothing else will.
I am on a mission to help you see that before you start out looking for success you need to forget what everyone else sees as success and just concentrate on what it means for you. I want you to find all that amazing energy that you have and give you a chance to pour it, unadulterated, into whatever it is you love and want to do. I want to give you a chance to do it without feeling selfish or stupid or the one I hear most, guilty.
I want to share what works for me and what hasn't. I want to hear you give yourselves permission to dream big and then take steps to achieve it. Or stay where you are until you grow stronger, but truly enjoy what you have. I want you to stop comparing yourself with everyone else. Sod 'em. Even your best friend! It doesn't matter what they do, have, how they bring up their kids.
I'm not being mean about your best mate. I'm sure she is gorgeous, but she isn't you.
What is the point of comparing ourselves to others? What's the point of looking in magazines and watching programmes of perfectly scripted, photo shopped images that are unachievable on a sustainable basis? Does it mean you can't have nice things, nice holidays or don't want money in your life? No. I'm not saying that. What I am saying is YOU decide. YOU make the choice. Don't be spoon fed what we should live like or feel obliged to do it because everyone else does. Don't want to saturate your kids with plastic crap and electronics, but rather take them on a wild experience, then do it. Don't want to buy into the designer clothes pressure, then don't. Don't agree with the two things I said don't do , because you do want to do them, then do them! Who am I to say?
YOU CAN DO IT YOUR WAY AND THAT IS OK.
But the big problem I see in the world is that most of the population is blindly living their life and not actually looking at what they need or want in their life. This has caused us, in a time when we have more money, more opportunity and more material gain than ever, to feel dissatisfied, resentful and discontented with what we have. What is going on?
Back to my all time favourite question: What are you doing and why are doing it? What does this actually mean for YOU?
If you want change, growth, adventure, calm, contentment in your life, whatever it is, you can have it your way on your terms.
Does that mean having the illusive "all"?
Depends what you mean by "all".
Personally in my experience of success "all" usually comes at a cost to something else. But that's the point isn't it. If a wonderful woman comes to me wanting it "all" we work out what "all" looks like, feels like, how it would be achieved. Can she have it "all"? Let's see what "all" really looks like and if she really wants it.
One of my favourite exercises I use with my gorgeous ladies, who I do one to one work with, is creating an individual definition of success. This is so powerful, and when done whilst looking at what limiting beliefs will hold you back, it can be totally magical. I have seen massive changes in what they thought they wanted and how they want to achieve it, leading to some amazing actions.
I love seeing women, who can't see the fantastic gifts they have, transform in front of me in a few weeks and start taking action to achieve the things they've been putting off for years; setting up businesses, setting up routines in the home that make their family more fun and enjoyable, writing books, creating and developing work that would never have got out into the world had they not taken the brave step of getting the support that they needed.
Guess what, I need support too? I see a coach when I have a fear that is blocking my progress or I need the accountability of a kick up the backside. I love coaching, it's fantastic. Why wouldn't I use it myself?
Have I got all the answers? Have I hell. Of course not. Have I ever said I have?
However, if I do my 'job' well, and you give yourself the space and commitment to you to work with me, we can find the answers in you. We can have you making progress quicker and more energetically than before. I will motivate you. I will pin you down. I will make you cry. I will make you laugh. I will love every minute of helping you move your life in the direction you want and with a confidence you may have never experienced before. Most of all I want to lead from the front, even if I'm only a few steps ahead. Walking my talk.
Can you tell I love my 'job'?
Never had coaching? Ask yourself the following questions:
1. What if you had someone who would just listen without judgement?
2. What if you could work out what is holding you back or keeping you stuck?
3. What would it feel like to have someone to be accountable to having set goals?
4. What would it feel like to identify the challenges in your life and have a clear plan to solve those problems?
5. What would it feel like to have someone on your side seeing how great you are?
6. How great would it feel having a real understanding of your dream life and take action to achieve it?
What wouldn't you gain from seeing a life coach?
Have you ever experienced the power of coaching?
Please tell us about your experiences in the comments below.