The last couple of weeks I was quite poorly and it left me under the weather. So this week I have been feeling a bit blurrrggghhh and I realised I wasn't letting BEST me show up. What do I mean? I mean the me that is energetic, disciplined, motivated. The me that is optimistic, focused, solution focused.
Working with my coach yesterday it came to me that since September I'd not been letting best me show up as much as I'd like and at first I couldn't work out why. But after a bit of coaching, which included a bit of challenge, I came to see that I'd been sabotaging myself by not committing fully to my self care plan of exercise. I'd let a few habits that don't serve me well creep in and undermine my efforts. Deeper than that I realised that I've been sabotaging myself by not allowing best me out to play, because I have been split with a calling to pursue another area of coaching that isn't strictly Wood for The Trees territory and it's left me feeling demotivated, as I didn't know which needed my attention most! I do now. For now and that's OK.
If you have felt like this or feel like this. If you aren't letting BEST me lead the charge for fear of failure or success, or whatever the reason, I'm giving you some top tips on how to have her back in charge and running the show in no time.
Tip 1 - Wakie wakie rise and shine
Sleep. Sleep is essential for me to be in charge and at the top of my game. Having had 8 years of not sleeping through the night with my children, I know that a full uninterrupted 8 hours gives me the right energy to start my day and end it well. I can function on 6 and 7, and I often do, but 8 just seems to enable me have a great, positive energy. This means good morning and night time routines are important to me.
How does the quality of your sleep affect you?
What routines for bedtime and waking up keep you at your best?
There are a lot of coaches out there saying sleep is for losers, and hustle, day and night, is the only way to succeed. I'm not one of them and I know when I do, I pay the price later.
How will you re energise you so BEST me is in control?
What routines serve you best?
Tip 2 - Dress to Impress
If I'm feeling a bit off or not fully motivated one thing that peps me up and makes me 'feel the part' is dressing as if I was going to an important meeting or guest speaking on the stage. Putting clothes that make me feel good about me help to bring BEST me to the table. I may well only be working from home. I may well only be sitting at my desk, but that outfit sends a message that I am important enough to dress well for, as well as knowing BEST me is working today.
What outfits or accessories help you to feel good about you and bring BEST me out to play?
What stops you from wearing it everyday?
Tip 3 - Careful what you wish for.
When I left my leadership role in a large organisation I realised the reason I was on the road to a burnout was because I had found myself in a job, that was no longer working to my strengths. In our corporate culture there is a definition of success that drives us to look for promotion and increase our income. This partly feeds our human need for personal growth, but the sad fact is that it often leads us taking on roles where our actual zone of genius isn't used anymore.
Equally, the entrepreneurial journey may find you engaging in activities that do not draw on your strengths, skills and attributes. For example, I didn't become a Life Coach to spend hours on accounting, which is why I outsourced that as quickly as I could!
What are your best skills, qualities and attributes?
Are you able to use these often enough?
How will BEST me show up today?
To bring out BEST me, more often, engage in the activities that light you up, fill your soul and allow you to love you. Of course we will have to the odd job that doesn't rock our world but outsourcing, delegating the jobs that suck the life out of you and leave you cold must be a priority as you plan your business growth. You might hate filing or creating databases, find someone who loves it as quickly as you can and concentrate on the activity that helps you excel.
Tip 4 - What's the plan Stan?
One activity that helps me bring BEST me out to play is planning the next day the night before. If I wake knowing what I want to work on, what's getting on my TITs (Top Important Tasks) and who I want to speak to or email etc then I feel excited to get started. There's no mucking about. I know what needs doing and BEST me can crack on.
What helps you get your day started well?
What can you do to plan for it the day before?
Tip 5 - Celebrate good times, come on!
This tip ensures that you see all of your daily gorgeousness, daily. At night I write the 3 things I did well that day. I ask myself, what am I proud of doing, thinking or saying today?
By writing this down I am flexing my self esteem and confidence muscles and making my conscious and subconscious mind aware of how good I am. They can be big, "I approached a strategic partner to do a project." Or small, "I didn't lose it when the kids messed up the living room for the 100th time!"
Celebrate BEST YOU and enjoy seeing her show up more often than not.
Tip 6 I'm good enough
If worst me does take over the show for a day, a week, a month all I can do is forgive myself. Mean Little Cow voice (inner critic) will see an opportunity here to beat you round your head with your failings, your weakness, your ill discipline. Don't give that cow the satisfaction! My coach had me write a letter of forgiveness to myself. It's in the past. It's done. The next hour, day, week, month is an opportunity to start again and get BEST me back on track. Worst me is going to show up at times. Fact! We are human. But creating conditions where BEST me can thrive is a life's work and one to be enjoyed. Love yourself warts and all.
How will you forgive yourself?
What conditions do you need to help BEST me run the show.
I'd love to hear any tips you have to bring BEST you to the party in the comments.
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