When was the last time you FOCUSED on YOU?
What F word were you thinking of? LOL
No, I mean really focused on you. Not just given yourself time to read a magazine or a take a long bath!! But when have you actually sat and given yourself the head space to think, 'What am I doing and why?'
As women, often we don't find the time to look in on ourselves and see how we are doing. We ask our friends & family how they are, we check in on our partners and kids, if you have them, a lot. What we don't do is focus on ourselves for very long.
Last year, when I ran a Clearing Workshop , and was delivering taster sessions before it, I started the session with the question, 'What are you doing and why?'
Some wonderful, intelligent and highly motivated ladies attended and when I asked this question many of them fell silent. Some of them looked at the wall, their shoes, anything other than catch my eye. The fear was palpable. One lady actually almost screeched and looked ready to run out of the door. (She's since become one of my most successful clients!) I'm not scary I promise, but the question struck fear in many of them. Just as it has struck fear in me before now.
Why was that question so scary for some of them?
Was it because if they actually took the time to focus on the answer they might see that things aren't as they wanted it to be? If they focused on themselves for more than a few minutes they might see that they were so far down the priority list or worse, that they didn't even make the list at all? If they focused on the answer perhaps they might have to make changes that were simple, but not easy? Changes that might bring short term pain for the long term gain. Some of the ladies loved answering the question and were really clear on what they had and wanted in their lives. Some ladies couldn't, or wouldn't, answer because of the fear it brought up.
What was wonderful is that the ladies who opened themselves up to the process by attending the Workshop, as well as many who have gone on to do so on line, were able to work through this question and the results were fantastic.
They could see all the great things they had in their lives and appreciated them even more.
They could see where they had lost themselves in work, or the washing pile or being a daughter, a wife, a mum.
They could see what steps they needed to take to put themselves on the agenda again, without feeling guilty.
They could see what focus they needed to make themselves work through the resistance to doing that!
They could see how they had made themselves very busy and how to create days that are full of things they love to do.
They could see the challenges they would meet and how they might overcome them.
They could see what they wanted to be doing and why it was important to them.
I use this question myself regularly to assess what I am doing in work, at home and in my relationships. It's a powerful question that can trigger some wonderful action to keep you true to yourself and your needs, ultimately giving you a life you love to live.
So, I ask you to take some time to FOCUS ON YOU. Ask yourself today, 'What am I doing and why?'
I'd love to hear your answers. Please reply in the comments.
If you'd like to take the work deeper and come away feeling like the ladies did above, I invite you to join me in the woods, literally, for my life affirming Clearing Workshop on March 19th 2016 for a full day for YOU about YOU and Let's get crystal clear on the answer to this question. Click here for details. early bird ends 29th February 2016.
Is it your time for a bit of FOCUS now?