I'm too old.
I'm too young.
I'm too poor.
I'm not supposed to do things like that.
My family aren't that type of family.
I can't do it, it's for x type of person.
I don't deserve that.
Excuses. Limiting beliefs. We have all made them at one time or another. We think we want something; to improve our diet,to improve our fitness, to start a business, to write a book, to increase the size of our business or seek a promotion. However, it can sometimes take months, years, for what we want to happen translate into what is happening or worst still it never happens!! Why? Why do we do that?
I've written a book. It's typed up and ready to go, but I am making an excuse that it's not on Kindle because I don't have the technological skills to get it out there.
That's bull. That's an excuse. The reality is I haven't made the time or prioritised it in order to gain the technological skills I need to put the book out there. Why?
Is the reality that I'm scared no one will read it? Is the reality I am scared they will and say it is rubbish? Is the reality people like me from my background don't write books and put them out there? Is the reality all of the above? Ouch.
What I realise as I write this is I am allowing my focus on the limiting beliefs I have on this the chance to unleash first mean little cow then my self limiting belief that people like me don't write books.
If I look closer at the truth of these limiting beliefs they are bull. First, I don't know what anyone will think of my book unless I get it out there. Second, loads of people 'like me' have sold books and had great successes. My excuses of lack of technology and lack of time are hiding the true fact that I haven't been tapping into my big vision and creating enough excitement for what my book could do if I get it out there.
It could be picked up by a women who is about to burn out, who reads my words, completes the exercises and turns her life around. It could be picked up by a women who has lost her way and prioritises everyone but herself, thus feels resentful and overwhelmed, who then works through the book, starts looking after herself and starts to prioritise what's important to her. It could be that a woman who has a dream or a plan but is so bogged down in the day to day choses to read it and starts to plan and make progress in creating a life she loves.
In fact as I write this I have no excuses that should stop me from doing what I need to do because if just one person can benefit from that book then I am also living the life I want to live in supporting women to make positive change. I have a duty to myself, and those potential women, to get this book out!
What happened there, as I wrote, is I created a compelling vision of what the end result of me completing what I set out to do. It had got lost in the washing pile and the need to decorate my living room, also important to me, but not as important, or as exciting in my opinion, as my vision to support women in overwhelm.
Now I will take action. Now I have reconnected with my purpose for writing the book all those months ago and now I can stop making excuses and get it out there. By stating it here I'm also now accountable so you can call me on it if this book doesn't appear. Oh bugger!! LOL
What are you making excuses about? Where are you focusing your energy? Are you focusing on your limiting beliefs? Are you listening to your mean little cow? Are you focusing on the fact you haven't done what you say you want to do or are you able to see why you want to do in all it's glorious technicolour? Will you make it happen?
You have a choice. What choice will you make?
Still not sure? Follow these simple steps to create a mind set of NO EXCUSES to get what you want.
1. What specifically do you want to do that you aren't? Be clear.
2. Why aren't you? It could be the inner conflict above. It could be your limiting beliefs. It could be your sabateurs. People like me can't get fit, I'm too fat and old. Watch this. I can't do it because I have a disability. Watch this. You are a woman with children you can't do it. Read this. Work out what exactly is stopping you. It might be that you have an inner conflict. For example, you want a thriving business but you want to spend all your time with your friends. Your desire for financial security and sense of achievement is at odds with your desire for freedom to pursue other interests. Work out which is most important or how you can achieve both through compromise or awareness.
3. Have you made the journey to get there and the end goal compelling, exciting enough to drive each step of the way? Why do you really want what you want? How will it support your values in life? Will it bring the security you desire, the freedom, the contribution, the significance?
4. Get to grips with why you want it, get excited and do it. Break it down in to small, doable steps and on the days you start to make excuses, hear the mean little cow and her saboteurs, how can you get solution focused and stay on track with that beautiful, strong end result in site. Most importantly celebrate each step you take getting there.
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I'd love to hear in the comments below how you are making excuses, why you think you are making them and what you are going to do to overcome those limiting beliefs and what you will do. By sharing here you might help someone else who is making excuses and you'll have a bit of accountability which always helps. LOL