YYAAAY. I've launched Bizmums in Southport. A small, but perfectly formed group of likeminded women joned me at Giggles Gym (thanks Gordon and staff) on May 1st to get Spring off to a roaring start. Look above proof!! They aren't imaginary friends... LOL.
I'd started to realise over the last month or two that whilst I wasn't missing my 'job', I was missing the daily interaction with people. I'm largely extrovert, (obviously, like anyone I have my introverted moments) but the way I recharge and energise myself is with other people. People who get excited about the same things I do. Sitting in front of the laptop or doing on line networking, whilst great, haven't been feeding my need for a good gas and giggle with like-minded ladies.
I had an idea a while back about creating a mastermind group, but I was making excuses about who I'd ask to be in it. Would they even want to? Why would they join me on my mission to define success for ourselves as women? Well, as soon as I stopped making excuses and just asked, guess what? 4 gorgeous, creative and talented ladies jumped at the chance to create a group that would support them and keep them accountable for the progress they want to make!
" Life progression is about more than waiting for fate to play its hand - its about creating your own destiny" Bev James states this in her book ,Do It or Ditch it.' A great read if you haven't already.
This jumped into my mind last month when another opportunity to launch and host a networking group for women appeared in my Facebook feed. Because I am always mindful of not saying 'yes' to everything. (It's got me into trouble in the past that saying yes to everything thing!) I found out all the information I needed and looked at what the wider implications would be on my time and how it might impact on my business and family life.
That bit was fine but then I started to make excuses to myself about why I shouldn't. Why would any women come? Weren't there already networks established that they could go to?
As soon as this started to happen I looked a bit deeper.
Yes, there was fear no one would turn up, that it would add to my workload and make me too 'busy', that I wouldn't find speakers. However, as I looked at the reality of those excuses they were outweighed with the truth. Yep, that's the worst that could happen no one would turn up. But at least I would have tried.
The reality is that being with like-minded women energises me and gives me a chance to energise and motivate them, which is my passion and purpose after all. The chance to bring a networking opportunity to my home town, that would help women who have to negotiate the school/nursery run into their working day, and women who get that, was too good an opportunity to miss!!
So, I took action. I said yes. I approached Gordon at Giggles gym about housing us, he even agreed to accompanying kids getting free entry. How generous. I spoke to Helen Guest accountant about being a speaker. She said yes too. 20 minutes of my time, that I'd wasted over an hour making excuses about!! It also reminded me of all my years in the charity sector, when you pick up a phone and ask, it is amazing how many yes's you get! Yes, you do get no's, but as my friend in sales always says, that takes you a step closer to the yes.
What's interesting as a coach is how I have to judge very carefully, whether a client needs a gentle approach to working out why they are making these excuses or just give them a kick up the behind and get them into action. It will often come down to where they are in their progression journey and how they have defined success. Interestingly, whilst I was in this 'excuses' mode described above, I actually took up the opportunity to work with a Business coach that has 'Ass kicking' in the title. LOL. Because I knew in my heart that's what I needed. And it worked!!
So if you are sat today making excuses about something. Have a think, what do you need? Try to do the following:
1. What aren't you doing? Why aren't you doing it?
2. What are you afraid of?
3. What is the end goal? Is it the right goal if you aren't motivated to do it? Why aren't you prepared to make any additional effort?
4. What will it feel like not to do it? What will it feel like to do it?
5. How can you find the energy and commitment to push through any immediate pain to get to the pleasure of what you really want? Why aren't you prepared to do that? Do you just need a kick up the bum?
6. Two approaches:
a. What small action can you take in bite sized chunks to take you closer, in a gentle but purposeful way?
b. Stop over thinking and just do it. Take massive action now and stop making excuses! Find a way. Make it happen.
What's the worst that can happen?
What's the best ?
If you fancy coming to the next Bizmums meeting we'll be at Giggles gym (click link for directions, next to Birkdale station) 10am June 12th 2015. We'd love you to come and help define networking for women like us.
What's your excuse not to come?
Let me know if you have been making excuses. What about? If you take action share your victory in the comments below.
If you still can't take action, and need more support contact me by texting the word COACH, and I'll ring you back asap for a 20 min free consult to see if you'd like to work with me further. x