The girls are back at school today. I have had a great week off with the treasures. Guilt free.
Yes, you heard me right. I didn't feel guilty about spending more time with them and less on my business.
That's pretty much a first for me. In my previous life, I lived in this half way house of guilt at spending time with them and not working and guilt if I spent time working and didn't spend time with them.
The fact of the matter is the half way house thing wasn't making me happy or content either way.
But this holiday I approached it with a mind set that allowed me to accept that I wouldn't be in 6th gear on the business, that I'd be content to tootle along in 3rd gear for the time they were off. (How far I've come. LOL) I had decided not to find childcare for them and once that decision was made I asked myself two things, 'How would I enjoy the week (and a half)off with them? What work was feasible in that time and what would have the most impact? '
So that is exactly what I did and I enjoyed being in the moment and concentrating on the girls the majority of the time. (In my high impact time, I saw clients and I also finished the hand written copy of my first book!! HAPPY DANCE)
However, what this time has done has stopped the momentum I'd achieved before the holiday, it's stopped the flow that felt, good and natural and like the growth of a tree in Spring. So I started to think, 'How can I regain that momentum? How can I get back that flow, that feeling of inner peace that I am moving in the right direction, at the right pace for me, at the right time? What will have the biggest impact? Which is when I came up with the idea that I'm not going to be the only one feeling this? There are loads of us who've taken our foot off the gas in the last week because of half term, and many more who've just lost their mojo along the way. What's happening for you?
In my on line networks I've heard women say things like 'Oh I'm so behind' and 'Why do I have to juggle all this stuff? When can I get the kids back to school?' Or 'I'm so rubbish I've hardly done any work this last week, how am I going to get on top of it? It feels overwhelming.'
It made me think. We are conditioned to think in this way. We can't help ourselves, but it doesn't help us. Luckily, I know there is another way and I want to share it with all you lovely ladies who might be feeling like you are holding yourselves back with the way you think. That you doubt your ability or say mean things to yourself a little too often. That you look at things from a negative perspective. that you can't be bothered because what's the point?
I'm going to challenge you. Challenge you to stop that nonsense and get solution focused.
It's not easy. We have a life time of thinking in a negative way, when the going gets tough, to overcome. But if I can do it. So can you.
Don't get me wrong. I've told you before I'm not perfect, far from it. I have my moments where I slip back into old habits. I'm human. But more and more now, I get back on track quickly with this fantastic way of thinking. I find energy. I work out how to get technical knowledge I didn't have before. I look at how I'm communicating with my kids and hubby in a more positive way. I get a flow for what I am supposed to be doing in life. I write flippin' books and programmes for gorgeous ladies like you. If I can feel like this. YOU can.
Instead of saying to yourself. 'I'm knackered' say, 'How can I get some rest?' Or 'How can I get some more energy today?' Instead of saying, 'Why won't my partner do what I want?' How's about, 'How can I communicate my needs to my partner and understand his/her needs better?'
So, if you want to get a handle on your head, if you want to STOP GETTING IN YOUR OWN WAY and stop mashing your own melon (in the words of Shaun Ryder), if you want to make your mind work to bring out the best version of you then come along to my challenge page and sign up for some FREE support and fun focus with like-minded ladies.
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