All of us have a story. A story of where we came from, a story of who we are and what we are capable of doing, being, what we are able to have. Question is does your story still serve you?
As a coach I love helping women break down the limiting beliefs that they have created about themselves, or been conditioned to believe, and decide what their truth is. Today. Now. As you they are and with all they know.
You already know I am a fan of Tony Robbins and I love this video in which he talks about creating a new life.
It's 30 odd mins long. So grab a cuppa and put your feet off for some pearls of wisdom.
If you haven't got time to watch, I'll summarise.
Tony talks about how our happiness is dependant on whether our blueprint of what we 'think' our life should be like and what our lives are actually like AND the amount of control we perceive we have to make it happen are directly correlated.
So, if you think you should be further on in your career than you are but you have just been given a diagnosis of an illness which will limit your ability to make this happen, it will lead you to feel depressed.
Now I do believe depression comes from many sources and this process may not work for all types of depression but in the case of reactive depression, it may alleviate some of the symptoms.*
Me old mate Tony (LOL) states that you have two choices.
1. Blame someone, something or yourself.
2. Change the story you are telling yourself and change your life in the process. Adapt the blueprint to where you are and what you can do to continue to grow and to give. (These are the two of the most important basic, human, emotional needs, according to Mr Robbins.)
Blame creates anger, and in the short term will spike energy, but long term will keep you stuck. By changing the story you can create a new blueprint, which gives you room for growth and giving.
Working with a coach can help you gain clarity around what those real needs are underneath the external outcomes you might be able to articulate and in doing this you will find more happiness.
However, I am delighted that Tony also recognises that this can be a moving feast and so creating new chapters is probably more productive, as you never know what is around the corner and this flexibility can help you be happy now.
So what's your story? What blueprint have you created? Does it match where you are? Do you agree or disagree with Tony and myself that we can start a new chapter anytime we wish.Love to hear in the comments.
Want to work on taking action to make that progress in your current blueprint or create a new blueprint that allows you to decide what you want in your story? Tell me in the contact form below.
*(Disclaimer: I am not a Counsellor or a doctor and if you have depression or suspect you have depression, please seek the support of a trained professional.)