As many of you know my dad died a year ago this Tuesday and my beautiful auntie lost her battle young onset Alzheimer’s a few days before Christmas. Death is a part of life and we will all feel the impact of grief at some point in our life cycle, unless you haven’t loved of course, because grief is a result of losing someone you love. It’s the purest expression of the pain of losing it.
I imagine this is a rare state of never being loved or loving. I am grateful to have lots of love in my life, including those I’ve lost.
Grief can hit people in many different ways and a lot will depend on the relationship you had with the person who died, how they died and how you handle these life changing moments.
I have to be honest, I have struggled at times this year, not just with my dad’s death, but with the 32 months of multiple weekly hospital visits, several emergency situations where we nearly lost him, his coming home with an inadequate care package (once they got it right things improved) and managing my business, my home life and myself. Plus, my auntie’s death is heartbreaking and her funeral next week will be very difficult, as although I’ve wanted her not to suffer, I don’t want to let her go. It's too soon. She's too young. It's cruel and unfair.
Truth be told, if I hadn’t had the tools and strategies I have built up over the years and reached out for support, personally and professionally, when I needed it, then it could have been a lot worse for me! Consequently, the last few launches of my 90 Days to Thrive
programme haven’t unfolded in the way that I’d planned. But as I always say, ‘Planning is King. Flexibility is Queen.’
This has applied so much in the last three years and has kept me sane. It's kept me showing up for my family, clients, membership club and me.
For you it may not be a bereavement that has thrown your life in a spin, it might be new found carer responsibilities, it might be the birth of a baby (as joyful as this is, no one prepares you for how it will change your life forever) or the worst, the death of a baby. It might be a divorce or looking after a troubled teenager or a combination of all of the above. Burnout often happens when these ‘life’ events are thrown on to an already overloaded plate.
All of these life events can shake the foundations of your life and it’s important to recognise that you have control and no control of the situation.
No control because things like this ARE going to happen. It is life, it is part of the light and shade, the yin and yang. Our family motto has become, ‘It is what it is.’
Control because the ONLY control you have is how you handle it. Therefore, I’ve summed up some of the learning from my experiences of managing my energy and performance over this last couple of years.
So I write this blog to support you through any challenges you may be facing, particulary grief.
As many of you know my dad died a year ago this Tuesday and my beautiful auntie lost her battle young onset Alzheimer’s a few days before Christmas. Death is a part of life and we will all feel the impact of grief at some point in our life cycle, unless you haven’t loved of course, because grief is a result of losing someone you love. It’s the purest expression of the pain of losing it. I imagine this is a rare state of never being loved or loving. I am grateful to have lots of love in my life, including those I’ve lost.
Grief can hit people in many different ways and a lot will depend on the relationship you had with the person who died, how they died and how you handle these life changing moments.
I have to be honest, I have struggled at times this year, not just with my dad’s death, but with the 32 months of multiple weekly hospital visits, several emergency situations where we nearly lost him, his coming home with an inadequate care package (once they got it right things improved) and managing my business, my home life and myself. Plus, my auntie’s death is heartbreaking and her funeral next week will be very difficult, as although I’ve wanted her not to suffer, I don’t want to let her go. It's too soon. She's too young. It's cruel and unfair.
Truth be told, if I hadn’t had the tools and strategies I have built up over the years and reached out for support, personally and professionally, when I needed it, then it could have been a lot worse for me! Consequently, the last few launches of my 90 Days to Thrive programme haven’t unfolded in the way that I’d planned. But as I always say, ‘Planning is King. Flexibility is Queen.’ This has applied so much in the last three years and has kept me sane. It's kept me showing up for my family, clients, membership club and me.
For you it may not be a bereavement that has thrown your life in a spin, it might be new found carer responsibilities, it might be the birth of a baby (as joyful as this is, no one prepares you for how it will change your life forever) or the worst, the death of a baby. It might be a divorce or looking after a troubled teenager or a combination of all of the above. Burnout often happens when these ‘life’ events are thrown on to an already overloaded plate. All of these life events can shake the foundations of your life and it’s important to recognise that you have control and no control of the situation.
No control because things like this ARE going to happen. It is life, it is part of the light and shade, the yin and yang. Our family motto has become, ‘It is what it is.’
Control because the ONLY control you have is how you handle it. Therefore, I’ve summed up some of the learning from my experiences of managing my energy and performance over this last couple of years.
So I write this blog to support you through any challenges you may be facing, particulary grief.
